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The Courage To Heal
Living On Purpose
The Almost Perfect Therapy
I Can See Clearly Now
More Joy, Less Stress

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The Courage To Heal
By Sheri Baker

Healing. It's something we all say we want, but few of us actually have the courage to do.

After all, consider the ramifications. To heal, we would first have to admit the necessity to do so. Then we might possibly have to reach out to others for assistance. And who among us is really keen on taking journeys into the unknown to face our deepest doubts and fears? Even scarier, once free of our emotional dead weight, we might be tempted to show up fully in life, present in every moment. What if we try and fail? Worse yet, what if we fail to try?

Like it or not, there's a part of all of us that simply doesn't want us to heal. It's often referred to as ego and true healing would signal its demise. It therefore presents us with a highly fallible but convincing case against any real healing. "But I'm in pain," we argue. "Take a pill," the ego retorts, "or have the problem surgically removed." Unable to see through its deceptive logic (just numb the pain, and all will be well), we render a guilty verdict against ourselves and live out a self-imposed life sentence in what Henry David Thoreau describes as "quiet desperation."

Fortunately, there's a part of us that DOES want us to heal and it can overpower ego any day of the week. By whatever name you call it, our Higher Self is always connected to our loving Creator, inviting us to remember our Source. It takes courage to accept this invitation because ego isn't going down without a fight.

In the classic tale, "The Wizard of Oz," Dorothy courageously works her way through a frightful forest loaded with disgruntled apple trees, flying monkeys and a wicked witch to get back to her Kansas home. For us to return home - to the knowledge of who we truly are - we've got to make our way through a similar jungle filled with fear-based thought patterns, limited beliefs and unresolved negative emotions. It's a scary ride for even the most intrepid spiritual thrill seeker.

To start with, we acknowledge responsibility for creating everything that happens to us. This thought alone can send shivers up many an otherwise grounded spine. But if we're so powerful that we can create the problems, it stands to reason we can use that same power to uncreate them. Whatever the issue, there's always another, more enlightened way to look at it. And while there are certainly more fun things to do than dive head first into our core of fear, the positive results more than outweigh the effort. Unlike most medications, true healing requires no warning of potential side effects, the most common of which are vibrant health, harmonious relationships, a meaningful career, inspired creativity, inexplicable joy, and peace of mind.

Dorothy successfully completes her journey, but doesn't travel alone. Mighty companions walk beside her and assist where needed. If you have the courage to walk your own healing road, be it yellow brick or otherwise, know that help is always available. Be they family, friends, and/or qualified healing practitioners, your support team will show up when you're ready.

If cowardly lion could find the courage to heal, maybe there's hope for the rest of us.

 

 

Living on Purpose
By Sheri Baker

Have you ever asked yourself, "Am I doing what I came to this earth to do?"

It's like asking, "Am I in love?" If you have to ask, chances are good the answer is "No."

Some of us, of course, are too busy to ask. We're preoccupied with life's daily details and bulging to-do lists designed unconsciously by us to keep us distracted from what's really important. Whether we're afraid of failure or even success, many of us are immobilized by fear of some kind. We can either continue to sleepwalk through life, numbing our existential pain with chronic busy-ness and anti-depressants, or we can start living on purpose.

Collectively, I believe our purpose is the same: to remember how magnificent we truly are. And one of the best ways to awaken this memory is to connect with and actively pursue our greatest passion. Are you aware of your heart's desire? Many people claim they have no idea what makes their heart sing and have blown many a brain cell trying to figure it out. Who knew it would be such a tough assignment.

On some level, we know already whether we're living in accord with our highest plan. When our compass needle is pointing in the right direction, we can feel it. Doors open (or close if that's what needs to happen), the right people show up, and answers are provided, all in a synchronistic pattern that we often refer to as coincidence. If you feel unsure of whether you're aligned with your soul's purpose, it may be helpful to ask yourself the following:

Do I enjoy what I do?
Do you spend the majority of your day involved in something other than what brings you joy? Do you dread waking up in the morning, stare at the clock all day, feel exhausted for no reason, or would prefer to clean your gutters than go to work? If your daily activity brings you no reward aside from a paycheck or if your grandest goal in life is to retire, that's a clue. You may be due for a change, but not necessarily in what you do. You may simply need to change the way you look at what you do. Perhaps the form of your work is not at the level you feel it should ultimately be. If so, that could mean that you need more experience, not that you should completely abandon what you're doing now. Maybe you need to expand your activities to include other interests which could lead you in exciting directions. It's important to remember that everything you're involved in, including what might appear to be a meaningless endeavor, is preparing you for your greater good and maximum contribution.

Do I feel the passion?
Is there a driving force behind what you do or are you doing something just because it's what you've always done? The next time you describe what you do for a living, listen to your voice. You'll either hear the passion or you won't. If you do hear it, you'll notice you also have more energy. Your face will light up. You'll smile more often. It has been said that your vocation should be your vacation. Is yours?

Is the "Force" with me?
When we're aligned with our soul's purpose, the path unfolds before us and obstacles dissolve with relatively minimal effort, as though we're being assisted by an invisible force. Actually, we are. It's the power of God, disguised as luck or coincidence, working in tandem with our own best efforts. This doesn't mean that if we're on the right path everything will be easy and we won't have to work hard. It means that we'll start to notice a certain synchronicity flowing through our life. Opportunities abound, people show up to help at just the right moment, you find yourself in the right place at the right time, and money appears on schedule in the exact amount needed.

Is my day an authentic reflection of who I truly am?
Are you the author of your life or is someone else writing your story? Do you have to compromise your values to get through your day? Are you simply going through the motions toward a goal that isn't your own or no longer serves your highest good? There may be nothing more unsatisfying than to climb the ladder of success only to find that it was propped up against someone else's wall. Who wants to live someone else's dream?

Is the world a better place because I was here today?
Even if we feel we know what we came here to do and are actively engaged in it, we're off track if we're acting in an unloving way toward those around us. We may be the best salesperson in the world, but if we responded with anger to the person who cut us off in traffic this morning or yelled at the co-worker who interrupted us for the fifth time to ask for help with something they should already know how to do, then we're missing the point. Knowing what instrument to play in this great symphony of life is certainly an important part of the equation. But we can wreak tremendous havoc with the rest of the universal orchestra if we steal someone else's sheet music, stomp on the violinist's foot, or refuse to take our cues from the conductor.

If you answered 'yes' to the main questions above, congratulations! If 'no' was a frequent response, then why not have a look at what prevents you from realizing your highest potential? Fear is usually the culprit, but fear of what? Do you fear you won't succeed? Or do you fear that you will? Is there a fear of not being able to make enough money to pay bills? Fear that there won't be enough time to start that business or get that degree? Perhaps you fear what other people will think if you pursue your heart's desire, especially if it involves a departure from conventional avenues. If we allow fear to run our lives, it's a safe bet we're headed nowhere. If we let our higher selves do the driving, not only will we arrive at our destination, we'll get there on time and in one piece. Guaranteed.

While most of us can agree with this concept in principle, we tend to lack total faith that life actually works this way. If you have a burning desire to do something, suppose for a moment that this desire was placed there by God. If that's true, wouldn't you likely be given the means with which to accomplish it? Why would a parent ask you to learn how to ride a bicycle without making sure you could first obtain the bike?

If living my passion is so important, I used to wonder, then why didn't God tattoo it on my forehead or something? "It's tattooed in your heart," I felt I heard Him reply. "Go there sometime and listen."

What a novel idea, this business of looking within for answers. I suspect it's not usually your first choice. If you are not involved in some type of daily meditation or prayer, perhaps you've thought: "I just can't get quiet," "It's too weird," "I don't hear anything," "I don't have time," "Too much noise in my house," "The kids won't leave me alone," etc. While these sound like plausible excuses for not getting quiet, the real reason we hesitate to pull within is because we're afraid of what we'll find.

As much as we say we want to connect with our passion, perhaps it would be easier to hide behind the rationale that we don't know what it is. After all, once we do know, the next step would be to take action. And that's probably our greatest fear. To put down the TV remote, turn off the video game, or get up off the lounge chair and move forward would upset the status quo. We've turned procrastination into an art form. We complain about things in our lives that aren't working, but refuse to take any responsibility for changing them.

It's your choice. There may be no greater joy than living life with purpose and meaning, but it's up to you to at least point yourself in the right direction. Even God, it has been said, cannot steer a parked car.

We've got the power to create the life we truly want. Why not take this power out for a spin and see what it can do?

 

 

The Almost Perfect Therapy
By Sheri Baker

If someone told you there is a relatively quick and easy way to reduce your stress and anxiety; permanently eliminate your fears and phobias; discard your anger, grief and feelings of guilt; manage your addictive cravings; improve sports and personal performance; relieve physical pain and more, you might say, "Sure and I'm Santa Claus, the Easter Bunny and Tooth Fairy all rolled into one!"

Yes, it may sound like storybook fantasy, but sometimes truth is stranger than fiction. While most people agree that quality of life is directly related to emotional health, few of us have figured out how to rid ourselves of the negative emotional baggage we've been carrying around, often since childhood. At best, we've tried to stuff our emotions neatly "under our seat cushion or in the overhead bin." On some level, however, we know that these unresolved emotional upsets can compromise our potential for health, wealth, joy and peace of mind.

Fortunately, there is now a ground-breaking healing modality called the Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) that is changing the way we heal. This elegantly simple procedure combines an emotional component with the ancient principles of acupuncture, only without the use of needles. Instead, EFT helps to clear both physical imbalances and unwanted emotions by gently tapping with the fingertips on key acupuncture points on the body while focusing on a specific issue to be released.

EFT is easy to learn and apply, is non-invasive, requires no drugs or equipment, works in a complementary way with other therapies and often works when nothing else will. And, since many people have initial doubts about unconventional healing methods, an added bonus is that EFT works whether you're skeptical or not.

Leading experts in the field of medicine and psychology are impressed with the effectiveness of EFT, having witnessed the emotional and physiological changes it can produce. Dr. Eric Robins, a California urologist and co-author of Your Hands Can Heal You, uses EFT in his medical practice. According to Dr. Robins, "At least 85% of medical problems are physical manifestations of how stress/anxiety/past traumas are held in and processed by the body. The best technique to address these issues and to clear them out of the body is EFT."

To better understand the potential of EFT, consider how it can be used to battle the current stress epidemic. Stress is now associated with most serious illnesses and, according to the National Institute for Occupational Safety and Health (NIH), job stress is more strongly associated with health complaints than family or financial problems.

To reduce stress, the NIH offers four recommendations:

  1. Reduce Negative Thinking
    Great advice, but the NIH simply recommends making an effort to stop thinking negatively. Much easier said than done. According to EFT theory, unresolved negative emotions and thoughts are caused by a disruption in your body's subtle energy system. Until that disruption is balanced, through EFT or a similar technique, willful attempts to change negative thinking will likely be unsuccessful.
  2. Improve Physical Well-Being
    It comes as no surprise that poor nutritional habits stress the body. Using EFT to address emotional issues at the energetic level can correct self-sabotaging eating behaviors.
  3. Increase Physical Activity
    Exercise is a great idea, but can be difficult to put into practice if you have a mental block to starting a fitness program. EFT can remove this blockage, allowing you to access your natural motivation to keep your body in shape.
  4. Relax
    The NIH suggests that hobbies, outside interests or other means of relaxation such as meditation, yoga and massage therapy can help us handle stress. But many people, especially women, have emotional blocks to taking time for themselves. EFT can release these blocks, making it easier to take relaxing, guilt-free breaks.

While no healing technique is perfect, experienced practitioners claim at least an 80% effectiveness rate in the application of EFT. Sound too good to be true? It almost is.

 

 

I Can See Clearly Now
By Sheri Baker

"I can see clearly now, the rain is gone. I can see all obstacles in my way."

When I recall the lyrics to that popular song, I think, "Wow, wouldn't that be nice!" Certainly, there are times when we can clearly see the obstacles standing in our way. But mostly, we're either baffled as to what they might be or we're in total denial that they even exist.

As an EFT practitioner, I actually enjoy working with clients who have no conscious awareness of the issues they want or need to address. When asked what they wish to accomplish with their session, they often respond, "I don't really know but there must be something I don't need to drag around with me anymore!"

I actually admire this kind of thinking. This person doesn't wait until their house falls down before deciding to make renovations. On some level they know they're not living their highest, most fulfilling life and that it would be important to discover why not. Interestingly, even though we're starting without a clearly defined goal, these sessions tend to produce the most profound results. Perhaps it's because both practitioner and client are entering into the healing partnership without predetermined expectations or attachment to outcome. When two or more gather together around a common goal with open hearts, healing is not far behind.

Without a specifically stated objective, the session might start with a question about one's physical health. The body is a convenient canvas upon which the mind will often place unresolved emotions. It's an incredible mirror for showing us exactly how we're feeling about ourselves.

If physical issues exist, it can be helpful to note the location of the problem. Often this brings great insight into the nature of the emotional contributor. For example, low back pain might suggest they feel financially overburdened and unsupported. Pain in the shoulder may indicate a feeling of responsibility overload. Physical issues, especially of a chronic nature, often point to some type of guilt we're feeling and the affliction therefore serves as our "punishment."

Further exploration into a person's emotional state might continue in a variety of directions, such as:

    - "Does what you do bring you fulfillment and joy?"
    - "If not, how would you really like to spend your day?"
    - "Is there anything holding you back from pursuing your passion?"
    - "What would you be doing in life if you had no fear?"
    - "What would you be doing if money was not a factor at all?"

If a person is not in alignment with their life mission, then anxiety and possible physical issues would be the inevitable result. Or sometimes, a person will know they are on course but feel they are stuck at their current level and want to identify and remove whatever obstacles are blocking them from stepping up to the next rung on their evolutionary ladder.

If all is well in how one is expressing their true passion, then it might be a good idea to ask them about their relationships. This area can usually provide a treasure trove of unwanted baggage. Considering the number of people with whom we come into contact over the course of a lifetime, odds are good there's at least someone against whom we still hold some type of grievance. The following questions are helpful in determining if unresolved relationship issues are blocking our good:

    - "Is there anyone you know that you would be just as happy not to know?"
    - "If you could live your life over again, is there a relationship you have or have had that you would just as soon skip?"

Unforgiveness can be a major block to achieving our goals. The underlying anger, resentment, guilt or other negative emotion will cause us to sabotage our best efforts on a variety of levels. First, it robs us of our energy because it takes a lot of energy to stay mad. In addition, everything we think, say and do will be infused with this anger. And if we hold onto it long enough, we know it will eventually play itself out as some type of physical issue.

In the unlikely event you made it this far without being able to identify an opportunity for healing, then I would suggest tapping on:

    - "Even though I have no clue if anything is bothering me or if there is, what it might be, I deeply and profoundly accept myself."
    - "Even though this mask of well-being is so thick I cannot see the truth that may be hiding behind it, I choose to know that it's perfectly safe to peel it away and look underneath."

Or if you're in the mood to lighten things up, how about, "Even though I am totally at peace and have no fear or anxiety whatsoever, I choose to be open to the possibility that I'm in major denial!"

These setup statements, intermingled with subtle humor, often calm any fears a person may have about doing inner growth work. As human beings, I believe we come to this earth with a desire to evolve, to give and receive love and to release whatever gets in the way of these efforts.

EFT is an elegantly simple way to take you where you want to go. Coupled with some trust and faith in your higher inner guidance, you will travel well on your journey even if you don't consciously know where you're going.

 

 

More Joy, Less Stress
By Sheri Baker

As an EFT practitioner, I naturally see many clients who request my services to help with stress and anxiety. Either stress is more prevalent these days or maybe it's always been there and we're simply not handling it as well as we once did. Whichever the case, many of us live in a mild state of panic over something - work, families, health - and if we can't find enough to worry about at home, we can always look elsewhere, be it the weather, economy, terrorism, you name it.

So what's a sane person to do? Stressing out about these issues doesn't resolve them, of course, and can actually wreak even more havoc, especially with our health. The truth is, there's no finding peace "out there" until we first locate it within ourselves. So when Jenna (a composite person representing many people I see) asked me for help, I knew where we needed to go, but the route to get there had not yet been revealed.

"What would you like to accomplish in these sessions?" I asked.

"I've got to get rid of the stress. It's eating me alive," Jenna replied, voicing the sentiment of so many people I meet. "Everything and everyone bothers me. I get no help from my husband, the kids are driving me crazy, I hate my job, and we're drowning in debt. To top it off, I can't sleep, I'm always tired, my back hurts, my shoulders hurt, and if my hair isn't falling out by itself, I'm pulling it out."

I pre-frame our session by telling Jenna that while EFT often brings rapid results, this will not be a one-minute wonder. She agrees and expresses her willingness to do whatever it takes to get back into the driver's seat of her life. Willingness is everything, I explain, so we've already got a lot going for us.

"Before we begin, could you tell me where the discomfort is now on a scale of 0 to 10 with regard to your back and shoulders?" I ask.

"My back pain is about a 5 and my left shoulder is pretty tight, probably about an 8," she says.

After a brief review of EFT and how it works, I can see that Jenna is becoming anxious. "What's going on?" I ask.

"I'm nervous about what might come up during these sessions," she says.

"That's understandable," I tell her. When people hear about EFT and what it can do, they often become anxious, not because they think it won't work, but because they know it will. "Whatever does come up," I assure her, "it will likely be the last time you'll have any negative emotion attached to it. On a scale of 0 to 10, how anxious are you at this moment?"

"About an 8," she says.

We set up the round by tapping, "Even though I'm anxious about what I might have to look at in these sessions, I deeply and completely accept myself. I don't know what will come up. This is causing me some anxiety but I accept myself even though I'm anxious. I know EFT will work which is why I'm anxious but I trust that I am in a safe space." Using the EFT shortcut, we tap:

Top of Head: This anxiety
Eyebrow: Not sure what will come up
Side of Eye: I may have to look at some stuff I thought I had buried forever
Under Eye: Whatever comes up, this is a safe space
Under Nose: I will be able to look at things differently
Chin: Releasing this anxiety
Collarbone: Ready to let go of the stress
Under Arm: I am safe

"Where's your anxiety now?" I ask. "I'm good," she replies. "I can do this."

Though Jenna has given me just a brief overview of what she believes is causing her stress, as an intuitive and numerologist, I am seeing her situation from a much different perspective. By adding together the numbers in the birthdate she wrote on the intake form, I can see that Jenna has a Life Path that involves the expression of some type of creativity. She may not be conscious of it, but subconsciously she likely knows there is something creative that she came to this earth to do and has not yet connected with it, which is likely the root cause of her stress.

"The way I see it," Jenna, "we're all on this metaphoric highway of life headed to the same destination: the realization of how magnificent we are. We're all 'driving' in our assigned lane at our own rate of speed. Some of us are driving faster than others; some of us are just poking along, barely doing the speed limit. And some of us are not even on an entrance ramp!"

"That's me!" she says. "Jenna, do you feel like there's something important you came to this earth to do?" "Yes," she said. "I've always had that thought."

"In my experience," I explained, "when we're not doing what we really love to do or at least moving in the direction of our joy, we can stress out very easily. Even little things will make us anxious. In fact, the first thing you said to me was that everything and everyone bothers you."

"That's true," Jenna said. "You also mentioned that you hate your job. What exactly do you do?" I asked.

"I work in a small office and handle all the administrative work," she said. "Nobody appreciates me."

"Well, I don't want to step on any of your personal beliefs, but I believe everything happens for a reason. You are learning how to run a small business and I trust this knowledge will serve you well in the future, if it hasn't already. Maybe you will operate your own business venture at some point and will be happy to have had the knowledge and experience your current job is bringing to you. Maybe you're feeling restless because you know there is more for you to do in this life and you're wanting to get on with it. I don't tell anyone what to do so I'm not suggesting you leave your job, but it may be time, at the very least, to become involved in an activity that you really enjoy and that allows you to express your creativity. If you could do anything you want and you knew you couldn't fail, what would you do?" I asked.

"No idea," she said with a deep sigh. "I'm overwhelmed just thinking about it."

"That's okay," I said. We tapped a few set-up rounds with variations of, "Even though I feel overwhelmed by all of this, I deeply and completely accept myself." Using the shortcut version of EFT, we tap the meridian points:

Top of Head: I feel overwhelmed Eyebrow: I'm exhausted
Side of Eye: Don't know where to start
Under Eye: Don't know what I want to do in life
Under Nose: Or maybe I do
Chin: Maybe there's a part of me that really does know
Collarbone: Just need to get quiet, go within and ask
Under Arm: Letting go this feeling of overwhelm; taking each day as it comes

"Well, I definitely feel a little lighter," Jenna said. "Things don't feel quite as dark as they did a minute ago."

A few moments earlier she had no idea what would bring joy to her heart. But because tapping can loosen up thoughts and emotions, I again try to lead her into the direction of her passion.

"What kind of things did you enjoy before you got so wrapped up in all the responsibilities of life?"

Without hesitation, she described how she used to love to bake but said she had not had much time for it since giving birth to her children.

"Are you saying you have no time at all to bake?" I asked. "Well, I guess I could find some time on the weekends," Jenna responded.

"Do you realize how incredibly important it is for you to take care of yourself?" I asked. "Taking time out for yourself is a common problem, especially for women. It may seem selfish to focus on yourself, but quite the opposite is true. You owe it to you and your family to be happy and healthy."

"Yeah, I guess if I stay stressed out, I'll get sick and then I'm no use to my family or anyone else, huh?"

"That's right. If you pursue whatever puts you in joy - in your case, your love of baking - not only would your family have the good fortune to share in the consumption of all the goodies, but they will have the presence of a wife and mother who is genuinely happy with herself. By the way, is there someone you know who would enjoy the fruits of your labor in addition to your family?" I ask her this because there's no better or quicker way to take the focus off one's own problems than to do something nice for someone else.

"I have a neighbor who is homebound and I could bring some treats to her," she said. Tapping into her imagination, she then said, "I could see doing this on weekends. I could get my kids to help me in the kitchen and it could be a fun family project. I could teach them about the joys of cooking and helping others, too. At some point, maybe I could package up all the cakes, cookies and pies, put them in a basket and sell the treats in different places like hair salons, small offices, festivals or outdoor concerts. It could bring in some extra income. And who knows, maybe one day it might become my true profession. Maybe that's why I needed to learn how to run a business. Hmmmm!"

Jenna started to look at her life in a different light and as her excitement grew, her fatigue disappeared. She was inspired - "in spirit" - and that's where the energy is. But there was a lot more work to do. Something and/or someone had led her to doubt herself and her abilities. Somewhere along the way, she had let the world beat her down and chip away at her self-confidence. To keep from falling into the same trap and to ensure there were no psychological blockages in her way, she would need to release and forgive the people and events that might keep her from pursuing the Divine assignment that lay ahead.

"Still feeling overwhelmed?" I asked.

"Maybe a little," she said, "but I think it's more excitement now." We tapped again, "Even though I still feel a little overwhelmed with everything that's on my plate, I'm more excited now about the new options that are opening up to me. Everything happens for a reason and I now choose to see the perfection in all that has happened to bring me to this moment. I can choose to be happy or I can choose to be stressed. I choose to be happy!"

Top of Head: Remaining feeling of being overwhelmed
Eyebrow: Remaining overwhelm Side of Eye: Releasing remaining anxiety
Under Eye: Choose to follow my passion
Under Nose: I can go within and tap into my own strength anytime I want
Chin: Letting go remaining overwhelm; I choose to be happy
Collarbone: I am more powerful than I realize
Under Arm: I have a passion and I choose to follow it!

"How do you feel?" I ask her.

"Good," she said, somewhat surprised. "I know what I need to do. I feel like there's a light at the end of the tunnel."

Jenna indicates a desire to continue our sessions, to pull out every limiting, non-serving belief at the root. "Before we end our session today, Jenna, would you check in with that pain in your back? If the discomfort was a 5 when we started, where might it be now?"

"It's probably about a 2," she says, making the connection between mind and body and how releasing anxiety can positively impact our physical health.

"How's your left shoulder," I ask. "Still an 8?" Jenna moves her shoulder around, trying to locate discomfort of any kind. "Wow, that's amazing," she says. "Nothing there. Guess I'm at zero."

We're all on a path to peace. Like Jenna, there's a road map designed especially for you to help get you there. Whether you bump along the highway in a fog or follow your own specific roadmap with your headlights beaming, the choice is up to you.